Bonding through support –
A personal experience from the Human-Dog Relationship
A challenging week is behind us – for both humans and dogs.
After a necessary surgery, our dog Maximus had to wear a neck cone for at least seven days to protect his wound healing and prevent self-harm.
This procedure was a significant source of stress for Maximus.
On the first day, Maximus was extremely stressed irritated, and sought help until he gave up in exhaustion. For the next three days, he reacted with withdrawal, reduced contact and seemingly reduced bonding behavior.
Even without direct positive feedback from my dog, it was important to me to respect his withdrawal and also to maintain positive bonding opportunities. I lovingly assumed responsibility for care and maintained contingent behavior. Sensitive and positive encouragement, calm physical presence, support while eating with a cone and lots of rest.
Over the following days, the stress subsided – both physically and emotionally. Maximus began to allow closeness again; he accepted the situation. Social interaction resumed hesitantly but visibly. For me, this was a sign that the relationship had remained intact despite this stressful period.
Our conclusion after this week: Bonding between humans and dogs doesn’t only develop through play, walks, and shared joy. It is especially evident in moments of stress, illness, or withdrawal. This experience showed me that bonding doesn’t develop through perfect moments, but through experiencing crises together—and the silent decision to be there for one another.
